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OK that is it, im sick of it. I've been that person long time ago, it is not about me. I will simplify.
Note: Everyone referenced here are high school dudes, around the 11th-12th year of school
I have a friend who has some friends (he isn't lonely).
This friend started to try for a long time already to be a part of some other group. You could consider them the "cool" kids, or the "big and heap(or is it hip?)" group. It is cool that he is trying, but he tries too hard, for a long time already. They just don't want him as a personal friend. He tries to start conversations with different people of the group, eventually saying things that are rarely connected to the subject just to say something or try to laugh at someone else/curse (he isn't a hooligan) to be "cool" or in the conversation.
But man, he does it mostly because they are "fun" (some of them are for me) and a big group.
And of course its ok he tries to befriend with other people, its healthy and normal, but he tries too hard! They (BOTH OF THEM, not only them) aren't connecting, but he forces himself to connect to them, "speak in the same language". They are indifferent towards him, don't want him as a personal friend. And he does not stop.
It becomes pathetic, I don't like it. Why can't he be happy with the group of friends he has, those who actually appreciate him? Why does he inspire to get into something he isn't suitable for?
I need your Psycho-sexual/Psychoanalytic theories or personal experience or whatever you have and can help me with: Why doesn't he stop, why doesn't he understand/refuse to understand this will go nowhere? That he isn't suitable? Even though they are good guys, they are not his type?
Each of us has a certain group of people he can connect with, we must understand who we can connect with and who we can not. My opinion.
Note: Everyone referenced here are high school dudes, around the 11th-12th year of school
I have a friend who has some friends (he isn't lonely).
This friend started to try for a long time already to be a part of some other group. You could consider them the "cool" kids, or the "big and heap(or is it hip?)" group. It is cool that he is trying, but he tries too hard, for a long time already. They just don't want him as a personal friend. He tries to start conversations with different people of the group, eventually saying things that are rarely connected to the subject just to say something or try to laugh at someone else/curse (he isn't a hooligan) to be "cool" or in the conversation.
But man, he does it mostly because they are "fun" (some of them are for me) and a big group.
And of course its ok he tries to befriend with other people, its healthy and normal, but he tries too hard! They (BOTH OF THEM, not only them) aren't connecting, but he forces himself to connect to them, "speak in the same language". They are indifferent towards him, don't want him as a personal friend. And he does not stop.
It becomes pathetic, I don't like it. Why can't he be happy with the group of friends he has, those who actually appreciate him? Why does he inspire to get into something he isn't suitable for?
I need your Psycho-sexual/Psychoanalytic theories or personal experience or whatever you have and can help me with: Why doesn't he stop, why doesn't he understand/refuse to understand this will go nowhere? That he isn't suitable? Even though they are good guys, they are not his type?
Each of us has a certain group of people he can connect with, we must understand who we can connect with and who we can not. My opinion.