Why are people here *****ing about our opinions on women? This thread isn't here for that. Go make a "Why girls are so awesome" thread. Jeeze, guys...calm down.
My generalizations are just that--generalizations, theories and findings that are applied in a blanket method. I have my reasons, and I think they're good.
What I say about women is based on my findings...fact is, I've known a lot of girls over my 22 years. I've known them from all around New England, from the midwest, out in college I met people from all over the country, I know girls from Italy and Germany, and I recently met some from California. Let's just say I've taken note of some similarities between them all.
Pain said:
dont trust them untill they prove they are worth it.
something doesnt seem right to you? cant put your finger on it?
chances are you are right, and that something is going on that she is hiding from you.
ive been in that situation with every girl i know, without fail.
the most recent ones defence was "youre paranoid..." even paranoid people are right sometimes....
funny thing was i was right about everything i thought about her.
trust your gut. the heart misleads.
and DO NOT under any circumstances get attached before the first big fight. youll see where her loyalties are when that happens. if they arent with you... ditch her asap.
and always be aware that most of the time, anything you tell her will be shared with her close friends... and that if she is angry with you she will most likely be talking trash about you to them.
if youve found a girl that isnt like this... congrats, dont let her get away. one in a million.
Pain...as always, straight to the point. I think Pain's advice and findings are very objectified and are probably the best bet for most of us.
Girls are very fickle, in general. In my experience, if you get into an argument, the girl will never compromise. Girls are too used to the men being the ones to do that.
Like I said, I've known dozens and dozens of girls. Is it a coincidence I never ever heard NOT ONE of them apologize for anything worth apologizing over? Sure, they'll say they're sorry if they bump into you, or if you get hurt or something...but "I ****ed some other guy" or "We had a really deep friendship and I threw it away" or "I used to be close with you but now I'm ****able and I really don't need you around anymore as an emotional crutch because now I'm getting ****ed in both holes and having a much better time without you"...you won't hear a peep. In fact, they'll get mad at you for finding them wrong...even moreso if the situation is one that is in fact undeniably wrong.
Girls never can admit to doing something wrong. They always have to validate it...so that no matter how wrong it was, they did it because it was somehow right.
Not to mention I know a lot of guys too. Almost every girl I ever met has cheated or mistreated someone...most of the guys I know don't.
At least when a guy takes advantage of a girl, it's SUPER obvious that it's his overall goal. The girls just like to ignore that fact; it gives them a good reason to "keep trying" and "make it work" or "work it out."
I dated a girl once who was so ****ed up, she would go out with me and tell me how much she loved me, then head out with this crew of people who have a massive passionate hatred for me. She'd tell me she was trying to get them to "come around" and stop hating me; meanwhile, she'd go out with them and deny I was even her boyfriend. She'd tell them I was just some creep who was "stalking" her and wouldn't leave her alone. I fopund out about this because of a certain vicious enemy of mine in that group...who, despite hating me so much, told me anyway, because he just thought it was that ****ed up that not even I deserved it. No guy I know ever did that. He would have told it like it is; "I'm just ****ing around with her, I don't even really like her." And he certainly wouldn't have done the rest of it; using the person not only emotionally and mentally, but also using them as a crutch and feeding their worst enemies info and props at the other person's expense.
And that is just one of dozens of awesome and enriching experiences I've had or witnessed with girls.
I'm honest. I think you can all at least say that much about me, no? Well, part of that is being angry, too. Anger and honesty are directly linked, in my experience; when people are angry, they let little things slip out. They flip and let loose with things that they think but normally would never say to you.
I know so many girls that give perfect examples. I have one friend who actually is only friends with me if I'm agreeing with her or telling her she's great. At times when we dont' agree, she will not hesitate to stab at me and bring up my deepest darkest concerns in front of people who've never met me, just to piss me off. She does this to all guys, I noticed...just because she can. I mean, girls lie. It's just a fact. These things the girl above does...they are private and personal, deep moments between her and I when we were closer than anyone (and incidentally, when she was a little fat, so it was before she had the male attention chip on her shoulder...now that she has that I'm not good enough for her anymore). And she'll just throw them around like they were garbage. Some weeks, she tells me she loves me; others she is appalled that I consider our friendship as something deep and meaningful when clearly it apparently isn't (her words).
All girls lie. Some--most, if you ask me--do it maliciously, or with selfish intent. Some do it to make things easier on themselves. Most do both. You have to learn how to read 'em right. Every girl is different, so there is no general "12 steps to understanding inevitable female malevolence" guide to follow...but I think Pain had the right idea.
