i would like to thank god for a lovely birthday.

[Nuttzy]

get this, my mother gets sent to the hospital on my birthday,

i take my first chance to hitch a ride and go over and check on her, and she was doing great, possibly talking about letting her go the next day. We talk for about 2 hours then decide its time to leave.

within15 minutes after we left the room, she had a massive heart attack WHILE IN HER ROOM, and the ****ing nurses didnt get there to check out all the flashing lights and alarms for a full 25 minutes.

if we wouldve waited 15 minutes later, we mightve been able to get help sooner and she would be alive and well right now, my family keeps telling me not to blame myself but they were not there, I was. I COULDVE done something.

by the time they arrived. she stopped breathing, and was clinically dead but they were able to get her heart rate going and they have her on a respirator now. They have given her a 50% chance to live, but i overheard the doctor say they were prettymuch wasting their time. The only thing that kept me from throwing him out of the window at that point was my little brother crying next to me.

ive spent the last 24 hours pondering killing the doctor, killing myself, killing SOMEONE just to make me feel better, but nothing is making it any easier. we had so many plans for this year, gone, and I dont know what im going to do, it scares the **** out of me, I cant even look at her dog without crying, its like he already knows.

 

[MinioN]

Sad story man.How old is your mother?

 

[Zeonix]

I'm not sure what to say, so just know we're here for you (that doesn't really mean anything coming from some random dude, but I'm sure you'll find comfort in the words and consolations of your old forum buddies). My only advice is to get your grieving done and over early with and move on with your life. I know that sounds pretty callous, but doing anything more than that may, and probably will, have a tremendous negative impact on your life. I'd rather you take my word for it than attempt to experience it.

 

[Nuttzy]

she was only 46,

i still lived at home and took care of her, now i dont know what to do.

i cant afford to pay the bills, i cant even afford groceries, its all ****ed

 

[Mr.Lukyas]

Do you still have dad living there with you?
I feel sorry for you nuttzy. That's awful indeed. I don't know what I would do if Im on your place. As Zeo said, we're here for you, though it probably can't help you much, right now.

 

[Viper]

Speachless, really.
But

just know we're here for you

 

[Dzamija]

Oh....****, man. Life can be a ***** sometimes, I know.

Well, if it makes you feel any better (although it probably won't), a classmate of mine lost his mother last tuesday and she was 42, lost his father a year ago and currently lives with his grandmother. Just like Zeo said, get your grieving done and continue your life in an optimistic manner =P

 

[Spunky]

****, I can't even imagine how I would feel, so I truly sympathize for you nuttzy. Just try to think that your mother likely wouldn't want you to feel emotional pain through mourning her, but to go on living your life. If that's impossible for you, then try to think of only the positive things, and don't beat yourself up about what you could or couldn't have done to help her. You had no way of knowing what was going to happen.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

 

[LionHeart]

Sorry to hear that, I know it's not helping you much but just know that I'll pray for you next time I go to church.
Regarding the bills and the groceries, sue the hospital.

 

[Spunky]

Regarding the bills and the groceries, sue the hospital.

He can't. She was discharged early. Once she leaves, she's no longer the responsibility of the hospital. He could only sue if they arrived but didn't do anything once on scene. It's not really their fault.

 

[sub]

I'm sorry to hear about this man. It always sucks loosing a loved one, and I could only imagine how horrible it must be to loose a parent.

Don't do anything you're going to regret later on

 

[MinioN]

that tottaly suck dude.I am sorry about you.

 

[Damaera]

Did she actually die, or is she still alive? I feel for you man, I hope everything turns out okay.

 

[Dokutayuu]

You have my prayers.

I remember losing my grandfather and I arrived a day after he died (I live in the UK and he lives in Poland). I burst into tears and I still can't fully get over it. I'm really sorry for what happened.

 

[final shine]

man that blew my mind, sry to hear that , i cant even imagine what i woldv done in ur place, what i can i say, keep ur hopes up, and we all are here for u

 

[Nuttzy]

Do you still have dad living there with you?

no my dad left us a long time ago, we paid for the groceries and bills with her disability check, and his back child support checks, stands to reason those are going to stop coming now.

and no she wasnt discharged, she was in her room when the attack happened, literally 15 minutes after I walked out the door. I couldve saved her if i had just stayed longer, this is my regret.

She was pronounced dead not long ago, my grandparents came over here to give me a ride up there. and I didnt even have the balls to go back and see her body.



my stepfather and brother do live here with me, but they have jobs. i was the one who stayed back to take care of her, ever since i graduated high school 7 years ago, I have no license, I have no job. I am a worthless person now, my only mission in life has been taken away from me.

 

[Grega]

He can't. She was discharged early. Once she leaves, she's no longer the responsibility of the hospital. He could only sue if they arrived but didn't do anything once on scene. It's not really their fault.

i take my first chance to hitch a ride and go over and check on her, and she was doing great, possibly talking about letting her go the next day. We talk for about 2 hours then decide its time to leave.

within15 minutes after we left the room, she had a massive heart attack WHILE IN HER ROOM, and the ****ing nurses didnt get there to check out all the flashing lights and alarms for a full 25 minutes.

Read that again Delta.


Nuttzy i don't really know what to say. I hope you can move past this and continue to live your life.

I hope she pulls through without any serious problems because of this, but if the worst should happen i hope she finds peace on the other side.

Oh and yes you should sue the hospital for neglecting a patient.

 

[Dzamija]

I have no license, I have no job. I am a worthless person now, my only mission in life has been taken away from me.

That isn't the way you should be thinking.

Now, I'm not gonna stand here and preach how it's easy and **** because as you know I'm only 16 and can't really put myself into your shoes. But you don't have to start from scratch. You're a graduate, that's something. And you still have people there to share your pain, and support you. You're not a worthless person. No one is a worthless person unless they're living on the streets as a 'saprophite of society', certainly not someone who took care of a sickly woman for 7 years.

You can get over this. And you have to, for the sake of yourself and the ones close to you.

 

[Zeonix]

This will probably sound far worse than I intended it to, but maybe this is for the best. Taking care of your mother was noble. It really was. But I think it also held you back, and kept you from accomplishing a number of things. It's high time for you to leave the nest and get on with your own life and do your own thing. Life is short and the clock is ticking, buddy.

 

[KidMan]

I'm sorry to hear about this man. I don't know what I could say to make you feel better but just remeber.... stay gold nuttzy, stay gold.