i can create but i cant join

[Dragoon]

I used to have esf a couple years back and it worked fine but now I can only create servers and if i try to join a server it says that i've "Timed Out". At first i thought I had a firewall asking if it should allow it to connect so I alt+tabed during the load nothing was there and I still timed out. so now I am asking the forums, and yes I looked at the stickies and if it was answered in a sticky I just didnt scroll down enough..