Are you a virgin?

[elNarr]

it just happens

http://youtube.com/watch?v=PDmI6cVqCEc

Now that i look at it 4 years later... He looks awfully lot like kidboy17, doesn't he?

 

[KidMan]

Everyone already knows about me.

 

[DiebytheSword]

LOL Synth.

I am not the only father on the board. There are at least five others that I know of.

 

[frsrblch]

Yes, that's right... I've been a virgin since the 3rd grade. Don't ask me how, but I have.

My last girlfriend was a nymph... she literally wanted it more than I could give. Not the hottest girl out there, but she certainly changed me in my thinking that men are always hornier than women. Even breaking up with her (in a text... ugh) she said it was too bad we couldn't have goodbye sex. A couple weeks later she sent me an open invitation to sex, if ever I felt like it. I already had a new (and current) girlfriend, so I haven't taken her up on it.

Sex is great, really, but I think that way too much importance is placed on it. Especially considering that your first time is never enjoyable. It's an awkward, nervous thing, and not something you're likely to look back on fondly.

 

[J-Dude]

Well, I certainly feel like a love life is far less unreachable than I've believed since...well, always...

Hard part is going to be finding them...And I can't exactly hang around outside a Target for 4 hours and hope for a nice girl to look up...****...unachievability setting in again...Why do I have to be such a damned troglodyte...?

 

[Zeonix]

I don't suggest picking up random skanks for your first time. Make some friends, and they'll introduce you to their friends and so on and so forth. You'll eventually come across someone who's interested in you, and then you'll work your way up (or down *wink wink*) from there. You have to put yourself out there, though. If you're going to hang back because you're afraid of being rejected, you're probably not going to get laid unless you manage to find a girl who wants to gobble you up, which probably won't be the case considering your background, although sometimes girls who've been repressed most of their lives burst out in rebellion and try to bang everything that moves. It also helps if they have daddy issues, unless you're trying to start a relationship.

It also helps if you don't think about girls as being unattainable. Throw all of your preconceived notions out the window. Treat girls that you meet as if they're one of the guys, so to speak, and you'll feel more comfortable around them. If you're comfortable, you'll engage in different types of interaction since you're not fretting over what this person thinks about you. Because you haven't be deflowered, though, you're bound to feel (one-sided) sexual tension with just about anything on two legs, so try to work around that. If a girl feels like you're thinking really hard about turning her around and bending her over, or if she thinks you're undressing her with your eyes, she'll either taze you, kick your ass or walk away.

It also helps if you mention that you know me. Most women would bed you just to get to me. It's a win/win situation, really.

 

[Chakra-X]

Well, I certainly feel like a love life is far less unreachable than I've believed since...well, always...

Hard part is going to be finding them...And I can't exactly hang around outside a Target for 4 hours and hope for a nice girl to look up...****...unachievability setting in again...Why do I have to be such a damned troglodyte...?

I hate you for making me look up "troglodyte".

Now I'm 17. My opinion on a relationship could be construed as naive, but that's just it, I still consider myself and my friends/peers as "kids". As adolescents, we demonstrate qualities of young adults many times and immature feeling and actions at other times. You put me in an apartment right now on my own and I wouldn't know what to, at least not for awhile. Until I am out of High School, I will still feel like a minor. That's one of the reasons underaged drinking and sex never caught my full attention.

But I can tell you this, that confidence is the key. Sounds cliche'? Yep, but it's a correct cliche'. I remember sometime in the middle of high school, my confidence began increasing dramatically. I was talking more, showing more personality, and was less self-conscience. If you're out on the prowl and thinking "none of these girls what to be with a cave dweller", chances are that's going to reflect you if you approach a girl. Just go all out. Plan for the worse, hope for the best.

What part of you do you like? Think she'll like it? Only one way to find out. If there is chemistry, work with it. If there isn't, then brace yourself, because it may be futile. No point on trying to MAKE something work when it is clear it isn't, unless you want to be daring. Now let's say you fail to pick up anyone. You will be disappointed, and maybe your confidence will take a blow, but who gives a damn? You'll live to fight another day.

When you approach a girl, don't worry about what she might think of you or what may happen after the conversation, but bask in the fun of the conversation itself. That's the fun of it! It's like a dance mostly...Or..Ugh...Like a video game. Going in guns blazing? Or are you a strategic person? Either way you'll have fun, and maybe win, but if you get shot down? Respawn. It's only a game.

 

[Zeonix]

It's only a game until she leaves 300 messages on your answering machine, each message getting progressively more violent and more disturbing.

And that's why I now give girls my landline phone number, and not my cell number.

 

[Chakra-X]

It's only a game until she leaves 300 messages on your answering machine, each message getting progressively more violent and more disturbing.

And that's why I now give girls my landline phone number, and not my cell number.

Ah, I am surprised I did not address this. That's definitely something I am usually concerned about.

Um...Well, I should say, the conversation and attempt of picking up the girl is the game. Afterwards, it's for realz. But since his problem was the initialization, I took it one step at a time.

But something around your outcome is the kinda **** J-Dude and others gotta look out for. Probably not easy to spot, but if it happens, gotta have a plan.

 

[VideoJinx]

lol... dood that's your problem. "When does sex come into the convo".

I'm assuming that your focus is "Sex" "Sex" "Sex" and not, "Lets have fun" "Lets have fun" "Lets have fun".

Sex usually isn't somethin most you conversate with them about until after uve done the shiboing boing, yet if you want to kno when to make a move.

It's all about "Observation", see how she reacts when certain things happen. Notice the little things she does when she finds something you do attractive or cute =o.

But about "sex" in specific, it's about your confidence, and her comfort level. Make things happen =] best of lucky lucks

 

[J-Dude]

I don't suggest picking up random skanks for your first time. Make some friends, and they'll introduce you to their friends and so on and so forth. You'll eventually come across someone who's interested in you, and then you'll work your way up (or down *wink wink*) from there. You have to put yourself out there, though. If you're going to hang back because you're afraid of being rejected, you're probably not going to get laid unless you manage to find a girl who wants to gobble you up, which probably won't be the case considering your background, although sometimes girls who've been repressed most of their lives burst out in rebellion and try to bang everything that moves. It also helps if they have daddy issues, unless you're trying to start a relationship.

It also helps if you don't think about girls as being unattainable. Throw all of your preconceived notions out the window. Treat girls that you meet as if they're one of the guys, so to speak, and you'll feel more comfortable around them. If you're comfortable, you'll engage in different types of interaction since you're not fretting over what this person thinks about you. Because you haven't be deflowered, though, you're bound to feel (one-sided) sexual tension with just about anything on two legs, so try to work around that. If a girl feels like you're thinking really hard about turning her around and bending her over, or if she thinks you're undressing her with your eyes, she'll either taze you, kick your ass or walk away.

It also helps if you mention that you know me. Most women would bed you just to get to me. It's a win/win situation, really.

Well, there's good news there. I actually have a friend (a *** friend, but I'll take what I can get...) who tells me he's been "advertising" me to some of his opposite sex friends. Also, thankfully I don't really have much trouble talking to girls, though it's usually just casual chatter I have with coworkers at the theater. One-on-one chats that last for hours might be different though...Another plus is that I have extremely little interest in breasts, so keeping my eyes on her face has never been a problem.

Actually, thinking back the only problem I have is that I'm not much of a conversationist. I can keep a conversation going when I'm being asked questions, but finding questions to ask and things to pursue vocally are a bit awkward...Once me and a friend of mine were at Disneyland and I forget the circumstances but somehow we ended up walking around the park with these two girls...It never went anywhere, but thinking back at that, that's the closest thing to a "date" I've ever been on...Unless you count my Senior Prom, in which I didn't have a date of my own, but my friend (my *** friend, this time) had brought along a friend of his (as a cover, I now realize; he wasn't openly ***). And eventually I got paired with his date...She was cute...tall, but cute...Never danced before, but Hell, somehow she got me on that floor. Didn't know WHAT the Hell I was doing, but it worked out nice I guess...One thing I always wondered from that night: Is it casual for girls to lay their head on your shoulder during a slow dance?

 

[Zeonix]

Yes, and you probably could've gotten down that night.

As long as you get laid at some point during college (the sooner the better or your first time may be your last, since girls tend to gossip, unless she's crazy drunk, which isn't very attractive comma comma), you'll be fine. Just think of it as practicing so that when you finally find that special girl, you can rock her world instead of body slamming her over and over while she lies beneath you crying. When you get to the point where it's time to make you a man, make sure she's on top and just out the storm.

 

[J-Dude]

Yes, and you probably could've gotten down that night.

As long as you get laid at some point during college (the sooner the better or your first time may be your last, since girls tend to gossip, unless she's crazy drunk, which isn't very attractive comma comma), you'll be fine. Just think of it as practicing so that when you finally find that special girl, you can rock her world instead of body slamming her over and over while she lies beneath you crying. When you get to the point where it's time to make you a man, make sure she's on top and just out the storm.

Really? Well, likely couldn't have hapenned anyway...We booked a limo and I didn't have a driver's license back then...

As far as an actual strategy for when it DOES happen, I intend to focus on HER needs before mine...Somehow I imagine that would be appreciated considering everything I hear about unsatisfied women whose partners got their part overwith and then forgot entirely about THEM...Don't think that would go amiss.

 

[Barney]

Troglodyte would be a sweet band name...

But yea Vox is pretty right about that. The girl I first had sex with wasn't all that special, she was my girlfriend, but not a long lasting one, so I honestly didn't really care how well I "performed" since of course you're gonna suck the first time. And practice makes perfect even with sex.

 

[Zeonix]

Really? Well, likely couldn't have hapenned anyway...We booked a limo and I didn't have a driver's license back then...

As far as an actual strategy for when it DOES happen, I intend to focus on HER needs before mine...Somehow I imagine that would be appreciated considering everything I hear about unsatisfied women whose partners got their part overwith and then forgot entirely about THEM...Don't think that would go amiss.

I'm not saying forget about the chick, but if you're banging someone who isn't a virgin, she's pretty much doing you a favor so soak it in. When you're in the game with everyone else, focusing on her needs before yours is the way to go, because if you plan to give her a hand/fist afterwards, it just isn't going to happen. There's really no incentive for most of the guys I know.

Personally, I'm a giver. I give because I enjoy giving. I hate pretty much everyone and everything, but I love women and I make sure they know it. If they want me to hold them afterwards, I'm game. If they want to talk for a few hours, let's do it.

But if they hate cats, they gots to go.

 

[Synth]

I recall most girls having this "are you serious?" or "I can fix that!" attitude when I told them I was a virgin.

You gotta realize your issue can be used as a strength.

I know I benefited from being open about it.

 

[Zeonix]

Just make sure you don't end up a notch on someone's belt in the process.

Make it special, J-Dude. Pour rose petals all over the bed. Light a bunch of candles. Play some soft music.

Oh, and make sure you record the happenings for a few seconds with your phone. Pics or bs and all that.

 

[Pieter Paul Rubens]

Doesn't christianity state that there shouldn't be sex before the mariage (I don't know why.. You don't go and buy shoes without fitting them first)? If God found out..

 

[Zeonix]

Preemptive strike: Let's not ruin a perfectly good thread, guys.

 

[J-Dude]

Oh, and make sure you record the happenings for a few seconds with your phone. Pics or bs and all that.

Had to lol at that...

Doesn't christianity state that there shouldn't be sex before the mariage? If God found out..

To be quite frank...I dont really give a ****...I've got enough trouble merely getting to that point with a girl without scaring her off with talk of marriage...Hopefully, one thing will lead to another and that's where it'll end up, but it's unrealistic to think the girl will want to wait that long...