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ill start with the real storry:

Today i woke up at 9:30 am and everything seems allright. My Dad woke up, my mum still sleep and i thought about going onto the comp. .
then after 10 min. my dad comes to my room and say:" WHY THE HELL YOU SIT ON THE COMP! DONT YOU THINK YOU HAVE TOO DO THE BREAKFAST FOR US!?", me: " but mum sti...", "dont talk, go and do the breakfast".

After the break fast my dad told me about working outside in the garten. I thought: Hmm, ok well ill work for 3 hours and then i can do what i want as they told me.

then after 2 hours my mum came out and told me: We will go soon buying food. Change your clothes and lets go.
(Me: OMG WHAT THEY STILL WANT! bleeh, k well i have to listin to my parents :-\ )

well instead of buying onl food we´ve bought other sh** for house stuff. And it took us 5 hours at all.
We came back and suprisly we saw our brother at home. My Brother got now a bad place in our famaly... as a lier. Well he live in our house like in a motel. He sleep and eat and do what he want. he dont even work at our house in the last time. Anyway, he get kicked out from the school again :-\ what was realyl bad of him. He was kicked out because he didnt go to school... and he told us that he go school. (lier)

Well we sit down to eat a ice. My dad wanted to ask my Bro what he think hisself all about. he told him some things and stuff... but thats not what my dad wanted to hear. My Dad gets mad an he started to scream at him. He talked to him very hard. He even hitted him sometimes. My Mom screamed at my Dad because he should had kicked and hitted him. (now she sits in the other room and cry) . I see how my dad is going to cry in his soul. He´s like a child. If he dont get what he want or if something dont react like he want he crys. Just my dad hadnt showned it up. He just acted angry.

Well afterall my mom still dont stop crying. My Brother promised to leave for ever and my dad act now a fool. And me? im sitting here and hope that my brother dont dislike me. Because if i will have contact to him may my dad or mom would ask some questions to me... well i would be like an lil agent.

Tell me what to do? I really dont want to lose him. Also i want to teach my dad a lesson... but how!?


here is an other problem:

Well, as many girl tell me: Im very cute.
Im 14 and as most ppeeps in my age get a gf and so i want to. I had a girl once a year befor. but i dont have her now anymore because for some unnormaly reasons.

Anyway, most of my problem is that most of girls think i allready have a gf. and thats why they dont try ask me.
Some girls try to ask me (normaly 2 girls on a day) but im like stupid. they show of they´re stuff and im like:

(O-o)...... (>O_O)> (<---- me)

lol, i mean its like a normal stuff for me. They all think that i will ask them to get out with her. But im a kind of person who want to get woke up from a dramatic world to a world of a sweet girl.

Once i had such a chance. but ... we didnt get it anyhow even after 4 months.

well i need advices on that xD


owell i hiope ya get my points. :-\

Comments are pleased.
 

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no real advice but "get older"..

everything in midteen period seems ****ed up.. when you grow olde,r it's just normal and you've learned to deal with it
 
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Yeah, I remember being 14, and most my thoughts about that time include "What the **** was I thinking?" Life will sort itself out eventually, but if you need help you can always go to your school counsellor. I believe that unless you tell them that youre running around the neighborhood torching houses, what you say is kept in confidence. As for girls, youre on your own. Having a gf doesnt make you a better person, or more popular (unless youre dating THE girl at your school), but it does give you something to do. Im terrible at giving advice, so Ill stop, but good luck with all that.

Salud.
 

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TryForce said:
Well, as many girl tell me: Im very cute.
OMG ASL?!


Anyways, at times like these you're up knee deep in crap, just be optimistic and make the best of the current situation.

(I have no clue why you asked for help from an internet bunch, but then again, sometimes you have no one else to turn to.)
 

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You sound very similiar to a kid on hl2.net that was asking how to get a girlfriend, the only reason he came up with is, because other people have one....I never did understand that, as with your brother, heres a thing to do, just ignore whats going on with him and your parents, and if your dad starts yelling at you because he is still heated from yelling at your bro, ask him to calm down please, so you can understand what he is saying or something.
 
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Did you ever stop to think that maybe us boys go for girls just because we're expected to? :p

Jokes aside, Tryforce, I believe you're just going to have to exercise your patience as much as you can. It feels tough growing up and you'll just have to listen to your parents and put up with your brother until you can get out of the house.

As for the girlfriend, if all those other guys your age have girlfriends, do what they do. It must be working for them, right?
 
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Honestly...though i didn't do it...just one day//night when no one is around...grab a beer...sit down...sip it slow and just try to forget that there are any problems going on in your life....fall back into the chair and just do something you like..watch tv, listen to the radio with a friend...hell you are 14...probably look at porn ((All jokes aside..))

do what you want to make yourself happy and use that as the fuel to get by the day
 
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If I were you i'd kick your dads ass....for his *****ing...
 
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Honestly it seems like maybe your parents see that they F'ed up with your bro and think being way stricter on you will make you turn out better. All families do it--the first kid is "the test kid."
 
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What I usually do when that happens:

Hold the feeling in my gut. When I get pissed off, I just hold the hard feeling in my gut, and just kinda sit there and let it happen.

As for the girlfriend.. THEIR LYING TO U UR AN UGLY MOFO!!
no im kidding, :p

But being serious, you say most people have a girlfriend. Don't be like everyone, trust me, it sucks ass. Just be yourself, and im not saying you shouldnt get a girlfriend. Also to help you, you say most girls think you already have a girlfriend. Tell them you don't. It works :D

Hope my advice works.
 
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Magus said:
OMG ASL?!
lmao

Anyway, best not worrying about it. From my perspective, spazing abotu something does nothing good whatsoever, so, i just forget about it. Your father looking dumb? Let him embarres his own self. You brother doign stupid ****/ Let him go to jail. Your mom? (no pun in tended) She'll get over it. As long as it doesn't too much affect you it should be fine.

As for the girl thing...If you don't have problems attracting them, whats the problem? You don't always need a girlfriend ya know, specially at our age. Live the life of a single to the fullest, less people to worry about.
 
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If my dad ever hit me, (aside from the ol' "smarten up" smack to the head), I'd fight him. Guess it's a lot harder to do when you're only 14.

And turning 14 isn't some right of passage that says "Now you HAVE to get a girlfriend." I was 16 when I had my first girlfriend. And that turned out to be a real bust. In fact, I have never been as happy as I am with my current girlfriend. And I'm about to turn 20. Just don't rush into it because you think you have to because everyone else is doing it. Sometimes, you have to wait for the right one to come along.

As for now? You're 14 years old. Just enjoy life, and go do stupid **** like throwing eggs at houses and cars, man, 14 was a solid age.
 
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hehe, well im just bored thats why thought about gettin a gf :p

i mean i dont have much fun and adventure in my life... all the same.. doing more then 3 hours sport on a day... driving 2hours to school and back. and.... nah thats now not important xD

anyway if i would try to please him to calm down. He wont do that. Because he is a person wich expressions are for long. Also would any of you realy kick into dads ass for yellin at my bro? Also most older brothers arent test childs for the parents. If you look around you will see it otherwise.

hell you are 14...probably look at porn ((All jokes aside..))
hehe why not :p
 
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this isn't fair at all , some1 creates a thread on their personal life and i seem to get mine closed and such (now , see where i am coming from) anyway..... that sorta is a tad unfair

on topic: i rember my 13/14 teen years as mostly torture and feeling like suicide at tiems , but i had the will to live on through it and i got out of my tortued school

in 2002 i had alot of problems , my mum continuely freaked at me for alot of things , judged me and then it got to the point where i just rebeled , an avo was setup and such , but then when my mum's friend introduced us to a psychologist friend it all figured out from there. my brother even had issues , he always had arguments with my mum , then i would sometimes ask what was going on and then become the subject of topic on the argument and then i was like "WTF JOO YEELING AT ME FOR JOO USELESS SACK OF CRAP"

well , if this happens to you then i say you sit down with both your parents for a heart to heart or try talking to a psychologist (trust me , they really helped me and i am ment to have assburgers syndrome (hehe , assburgers) and that you can grow out of , and now that supposedly thought i had mpd untill s few months ago)
 
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well dude it wont even help. Cuz i tried it many times and the result was always....: Im a loser.

:-\ anyway i had once a same thread about one day of me. And it get closed too here im asking for advices... im not telling my life xD
 
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make the breakfast?!?!?!
work in the garden!?!?!

Ur parents are major slave drivers. Go read a book called Matilda by Roald Dahl. Teach those parents of rus a lesson.
 
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TryForce said:
well dude it wont even help. Cuz i tried it many times and the result was always....: Im a loser.

:-\ anyway i had once a same thread about one day of me. And it get closed too here im asking for advices... im not telling my life xD
i actually did ask for advice in my last one

i actaully have a mate and his parents treat him like the 50's and such , his dad always plays cards on his comp to prevent him from playying games (he plays alot of wow thou ^_^)

but as said before , try to have a heart to heart , it's hard to do it with my mum thou , she only hears what she wants to hear. if people like that can be that cruel then why don't they stop judginbg people and listen for a change as it could solve their problems very easily
 
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I wonder how people lived before there was the internet to ask advice on your really-not-that-special problems.
 
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X said:
I wonder how people lived before there was the internet to ask advice on your really-not-that-special problems.
are you pointing that comment towards me or tryforce? (imo that sounds like some sought of flame)
 
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It was at Tryforce; I'm just saying, what would he do if he didn't have the internet to ask advice on? It's probably just me, but I really don't see the point of asking advice on the internet because you probably won't even get serious answers anyway and if people just used some common sense they would see that their problems are not special; everyone has them, it's called LIFE.
 

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