Ok, 1) No, you don't need to download servers (per se). Just go to Multiplayer>Internet Games>Filter and then check the "are running game" option and "ESF" from the drop down menu to the side. Go back and then click update and you should recieve a list of servers (it may take a while). That should be you done, you should be able to see ESF servers now.
2) Everything you two are doing is considered spam
3)It is also not tolerated on these boards, you can probably expect to be banned by a mod soon. Just warning you.